Tuesday, February 23, 2010
On this blessed day!
"Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled." Matthew 5:6
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord." Proverbs 18:22
It was 12 years and 8 days ago in the afternoon, on a lonely Sunday drive home, when my life began to change- though I didn't know it at the time. I had walked away from God for a time (out of anger at him), and had only recently came back to him and "prayed back through" (as we Pentecostals call it). I had gone to visit a dear friend of mine in south Georgia that weekend and was on my way back to my rented room in Lawrenceville.
My friend, David, has a beautiful family and as much as I enjoyed being with him, my heart yearned for a family of my own, especially a wife. I had been through a failed marriage of my own (the reason I walked away from God in the first place) and now found myself yearning for the love of a good woman (Yes, I mean LOVE- not lust).
My newly cleansed heart began to cry out to Jesus for what I desired and knew I needed. I drove with tears running down my face and one hand raised in the air- worshipping my God and petitioning him for my needs. As I prayed, I reminded him that he had said that "it is not good for man to be alone." Then I made the request that would change my life: "Lord, I need a wife, but I want this one to love you more than she loves me." Little did I know the glorious changes that would bring.
The very next day, at about 10 AM (forgive me, honey, if I get the hour wrong- I'm close), my boss walked up to me with a beautiful woman following him. He spoke to me and said, "Mike. This is Della. Would you mind training her?" My first thought was amazement that he would ask me to train anyone at all. I'd only been on the job for 10 days! My next thought came after seeing the trainee- she was beautiful! Sure, boss, I'll be happy to train her!
As we talked, I could see that she was as sweet as she was beautiful. The biggest thing that stuck out to me, however, was her love for God. She really loved him!
One week later, I worked up the courage to ask her out to dinner. To my joy, she accepted. As we walked out the door of the warehouse, heading to my car, I suddenly remembered- I hadn't cleaned my car out! I was a true bachelor. There were fast food bags and newspapers galore in the floor board of the passenger front seat! Would she see this and walk away? It was too late now. All I could do was pray, "Lord, Help me".
When I opened the door to let her in, I didn't see her face. I'm sure she was shocked, but she said nothing. To my delight, she got in. The poor woman's knees almost touched her chin, due to the floor board's garbage.
We went to Ryans and got the buffet. I have no idea what I ate, nor who else was around. All I could see was Della. She was even more charming outside of work than she was at work. We talked for a while and, too soon, the evening was over.
The following Saturday, she invited me over to her Dad's house and helped me clean my car. Apparently, she saw something in me more than my being a slob! I'm still not sure what.
A few weeks later, she asked me to accompany her to her mother's grave, who had passed away one year earlier. We went after work. It was a starry night, so it wasn't very hard to find the grave. As Della cried softly on my shoulder, the Lord spoke to me: "This is my gift to you and your responsibility. Take care of her." I began to cry with her.
On February 23, 1999, one year to the day after our first date- and one year and seven days since we first met and one year and eight days after I cried out to my God for a Godly wife- Della and I married! God is so good!
Della has followed me and the call of God on our lives ever since. We've lived in Ga, Tx, Ms, Ar, and now Pa. We've had times of plenty, and times of little. We've had times of laughter, and times of tears. But always, we've had God and each other. She prayed for me when I was week, backed me up when I was right, and spiritually spanked me when I was wrong. A better help mate could never be found!
So, on this day, my love, I want to tell the world how much I thank God for you! I also want to tell the world and you, that I truly love Della Mae Winskie- now and always. Thank you for tolerating me these 11 years! I still don't know who's training who! With love, from your husband, Mike
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Like fine china?
Now that I've quoted this verse, I would like to ask you to stay with me here. It is possible that we all (myself included) may learn something here.
This verse is not spoken of much in our current politically correct and "enlightened" society. Why? The contents of it is offensive to many people- especially the part about the wife being the "weaker vessel". How dare anyone say that about a woman! After all, women can do anything a man can do and are just as valuable as a man.
I will not cloud the issue at hand by getting into all the differing roles and responsibilities of a marriage. We can discuss that on another occasion. Instead, let's discover what this particular verse has to teach us.
The verse starts with the word, "likewise". It means, "In the same way" or "just as". This verse is a continuation of the thoughts on A married couple that Peter began in chapter 3, verse 1. The last thought before verse 7 is about the wife being in subjection to her husband. Now, he says to the husband, "likewise"- meaning? As much as some of us would rather not admit it, sweep it under the rug, and ignore it, we husbands are (at various times and in certain situations) supposed to have an attitude of subjection to our wives as well.
Does this mean that the wife is a co-head of the home? NO. God doesn't create two headed monsters. There is only one head of the universe- God almighty. There is only one head of the home- the husband. So how is the husband to be in subjection to his wife?
By being a servant leader! Put another way, Paul said for us to "love (agape'- unconditional love) your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it" (Ephesians 5:25). We are to love our wives so much that we live our lives in such a way that will bring honor to her, show her and the world how much we love her, and help her to "work out (her) own salvation with fear and trembling. She should feel safe and secure in her relationship with her husband- knowing that he loves her and has her best interest at heart. (Man, do I have a long ways to go! Help me, Lord!)
We are further instructed to "dwell with" her. It means to "reside with as family". Some would read this and say, "Well, duh! Isn't that what married people do?" Sadly, not so much.
Many take jobs that hinder their relationship with their spouses. Many stop communicating and sharing their plans, hopes, and dreams with their spouses. This one simple area would go a long ways toward rekindling a lot of marriages that are on the rocks. God gave us our wives to be our "help meets" (Genesis 1:18). The word literally means "help help". In other words, guys, us hard headed men DO need a lot of help!
If we will stay in deep communication with our wives, we can avoid a whole lot of spiritual traps that we might not otherwise see! A Godly wife is a great resource. She knows her husband better than he knows himself, many times. While we tend to go through life with blinders on, she is able to help us see around them and avoid catastrophe. She should be our best friend, our lover, our confidante, and our closest advisor- above ALL else (save the Lord).
Many, unfortunately, choose to shut their wives out of their daily grind. She is our help meet in every area! If you're a pastor, you're wife can help you pray and talk through the decisions you must make. If you're a CEO, your wife can help you pray and talk through the decisions you have to make. She may not know your job like you do, but God has gifted her to be especially attuned to the world around you and your home. If she warns you about a certain situation or person, you would be well advised to take it into further prayer, instead of blowing her off. You may just save your job and marriage!
We are not only to dwell with our wives, but we are to "dwell with them according to knowledge". Who's knowledge? Yours? Hers? Gods? Answer: YES! I believe that we are to dwell with her according to what we know to be right and wrong, what she knows to be right and wrong, and especially what God says is right and wrong. Isn't that saying the same thing in three different ways? No.
Of course what God says is right and wrong is absolutely final and binding. We must build our lives upon the foundation of his word. It is our life and salvation. However, who among us knows the whole word of God? Are we all in the same place in God? Again, no.
Therefore, we have to dwell with our wives according to knowledge. Your wife came from a different background and culture than you did. She has had different experiences in life and with God than you have. In some areas, she may not know as much as you. In other areas, she probably knows more than you.
When she knows less, don't brow beat her. Lovingly pray for her and help her to understand (when she's ready for it). When she needs to be propped up in the Lord and encouraged, do it!
When she knows more than you in an area, put down your manly pride and except the Godly counsel she is giving you. She's there to help you. When you're weak, she'll likely be strong, and vice verse. It's truly a great thing to grow together and help each other through life and your walks with God.
We are also to give "honour unto her". Honour, in the Greek, means, "a value, i.e. money paid, or valuables; by analogy esteem (especially of the highest degree), or the dignity itself." Our wife is to have the highest esteem and value in our lives. Noone should even come close to the level that our wives has in our eyes, hearts, and minds! NOONE. Outside of Jesus, should be higher or even equal, to our wives. Not even our children should be equal to our wives in our lives. She should have our love, devotion, and complete trust.
How many marriages could be saved, if this one principle were followed? How many could be saved, if they would lower their jobs, hobbies, friends, outside family, and children to a level BELOW their wives? Our priorities should be God, Wife, Children, everything else.
Here's the tricky phrase, though. We are to honour her "as unto the weaker vessel". What does that mean? Was God through Peter, somehow putting women down? Was Peter ignoring God for a moment and throwing in his own male chauvinistic thoughts?
The word "weaker" here means, "strengthless". The word vessel here, means, "a vessel, implement, equipment, or apparatus (specifically a wife as contributing to the usefulness of the husband)." So we are to place the greatest value on our wives, understanding that she is our most useful, yet strengthless vessel. Why was that put there? Because, bu the way that God created us, women are, as I heard one preacher put it, like fine china! Beautiful and very useful, but fragile.
Part of honoring her is protecting her. Others should have to go through us to get to her! We should want to protect her, emotionally, financially, physically, spiritually- in every way. A broken piece of china is useless. Though it can be repaired, it's never as strong as it was. Our first job is to protect our wives to the point of being willing to die for them!
God, nor Peter, were putting down women. In fact, they were showing us the extreme value, love, and care that we need to give and show to our wives!
We are also told to give honour to her because we are "heirs together". When we were married, God began the process of making two distinctly different people, one flesh. We are heirs together. Neither person in a marriage, nor the people in the church, are on our way to heaven alone. We make it together, helping each other and supporting each other along the way, or we may not make it at all!
We are heirs together of the grace ("the divine influence upon the heart and it's reflection in the life") of life. His grace is a partnership with us that saves us and enables us to make it to heaven. He lovingly leads us and moves on our heart and we willingly and lovingly, with his help, obey (a partnership). Our marriages should be a physical reflection of that heavenly relationship to a lost and dying world to see!
Finally we are told to do this, "that your prayers be not hindered". If we do not treat our wives in the Godly manner they should be treated, get ready to lose out on some answered prayers. Our prayer life is hindered when our marriage life is not what it should be.
If any of you have further insite into this verse, I'm open to it. I'm learning just as you are. Lord, help our marriages, our homes, our companies, and our country to live our lives in the Godly manners that you teach us to follow! God bless you all!
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
God knows where you are!
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Biblical discrepencies!
"In 1631 an English Bible printer forgot the NOT in one of the Ten Commandments. Here's how his mistake in Exodus 20:14 read: "Thou shalt commit adultery." Because of this colossal goof, the edition became known as The Wicked Bible, and the printer had to pay a large fine.
An edition of the Bible printed at Cambridge , England in 1653 contained the following printer's error: "know ye not that the unrighteous shall inherit the kingdom of God?" (1 Corinthians 6:9)."
As you can see, leaving a small word out of the text- not- makes a HUGE difference in the meaning of a verse.
We live in a day and an hour that, in an effort to "make the word of God more understandable", keeps printing newer and newer versions of the "word of God". In principle, I have no problem with the idea itself. If someone were to go back to the KJV (King James Version) and go through the Greek manuscripts that those translators used, then a truly more understandable version could be brought out- without changing the word of God.
For example,1 Peter 3:1-2 states, "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the CONVERSATION of the wives; while they behold your chaste CONVERSATION coupled with fear." In our current culture, the word "conversation" generally means to be in a good talk with someone. Therefore, many think that, in this scripture, the husbands will be reached by what the wife says to her husband. How many men, no offence to the women that are truly trying to reach their husbands, grow weary of their wives "preaching at them"?
In truth, however, the word Conversation comes from the Greek word "anastrophe", which means "behavior". It really is by how his wife acts AND talks that the unregenerate husband is won over- not simply by what she says. To put it bluntly, a wife can preach at her husband all day long, but if the husband sees no love of God in her actions and hears no love of God in her voice and attitude, then she's wasting her words.
If someone were to come out with a version of the Bible that said, in 1 Peter 3:1-2, "Be Christlike, wives, and be in submission to your own husbands; that way, if any husband does not obey the word of God, they may, without your trying to pound them with the word of God, be won to God by the Godly lifestyles that they see displayed by their wives; because they see the pure lifestyle coupled with the fear of God.", I'd have no problem with that.
That having been said, however, the truth is that the "modern translations" are not translations at all! They are transliterations. Instead of going word for word, as the KJV translators did, and translating the word into the (at that time) modern equivalent to that word for people to be able to understand it, they've reworded the word of God in such a way as to make the word of God ineffective.
Here's one example. John 3:13 is one of my favorite verses. It reads, "And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, even the son of man which is in heaven." In this one verse, Jesus was revealing to Nicodemus that, although he was speaking with Jesus face to face, Jesus was also in heaven at the same time he was speaking to him. In other words, he was telling Nicodemus that even though all he saw was a man, Nicodemus was actually talking to the very real God of the universe.
The New Living Translation says, "No one has ever gone to heaven and returned. But the son of Man has come down from heaven".
The Message Bible says, "No one has ever gone up into the presence of God, except the one who came down from that presence, the son of man."
The New American Standard says, "No one has ascended into heaven, but he who descended from heaven: the son of man."
The NIV says, "No one has ever gone into heaven except the one who came from heaven- the son of man."
Can we not see the changes that they've made? Can we not see that they all leave the phrase "which is in heaven" completely off? Do we not understand the damage that they have done to the true meaning of the word of God?
John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life."
There is much in this verse, but we will focus on this one part. If a person believes, they SHOULD not perish. It does not say SHALL not. It is not a guarantee or a blank check. By believing in a biblical way, we have the option to follow Jesus and let him live through us. If we stay in that relationship with him we will make it to heaven. If, however, we choose to leave that relationship, we will NOT make heaven. That's why it says SHOULD, not SHALL.
When a couple gets married, they've made a commitment and are joined together in the eyes of God and man. If, however, one of them decides to leave the other and go off with someone else, they break the covenant. The marriage, in most circumstances, is over (and biblically could be). If we leave our covenant relationship with Jesus, we break the marriage and unless we go back in real repentance and pray back through, we will (in the words of a good friend of mine) bust hell wide open!
Now, what do the other mistranslations say?
The NIV says, "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him SHALL not perish but have eternal life."
The NAS says, "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that whoever believes in him SHALL not perish but have eternal life."
The Message says, "This is how much God loved the world: he gave his son, his one and only son. And this is why, so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. God didn't go through all the trouble of sending his son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again. Anyone who trusts in him IS ACQUITTED; anyone who refuses to trust him has long since been under the sentence without knowing it. And why? Because of that persons failure to believe in the one of a kind son of God when introduced to him."
The NLT says, "For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only son, so that everyone who believes in him WILL not perish but have eternal life."
In short NO TRUE BELIEVER should ever use the modern translations. It's that simple. They are not the whole word of God. A little bit of leaven leavens the whole loaf. A little lie written and passed off as the word of God makes the true word of God in the rest of the book to have no effect. Stick with the KJV and a good Strong's concordance. For now, anything else, is not the word of God!
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Grace alone? What is grace anyway?
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
The refiners fire!
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Just let them grow up! (by our daughter- Heather)
The phone rings.
“Lucy” mom said, “ I have to step out and answer the phone. Don’t touch the stove it is very hot and you will get burned.”
Like every kid Lucy’s curiosity got the best of her.
She toddled her way over to the stove and reached up her tiny hand. She soon found out what hot meant.
As she let out a cry mom was soon their pulling Lucy into her arms.
“It’s okay sweetheart” mommy crooned, “I am here and I will help to make it feel all better.”
Yes the mom could have taken Lucy with her but how would Lucy have ever learned what hot meant. You see we can shelter someone so much that we never let them grow up. Sometime the best thing to do is let them learn and when they hurt we can always be there for them to wipe the tears away. A part of hurting is a part of growing. It comes one way or another. The thing is to let them know that you are always there for them and you love them.
God is that way. He lets us grow and find out for ourselves what life is all about. Just like the mom in this story he is there to pick us up when we fall and He forgives us.
So just a thought, maybe letting go is the best thing that we could ever do. We might just be surprised at the outcome.