The Apostle that almost was (the rich young ruler revisited)

Luke 18:18-27 King James Version (KJV)

18 And a certain ruler asked him, saying, Good Master, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?

19 And Jesus said unto him, Why callest thou me good? none is good, save one, that is, God.

20 Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Honour thy father and thy mother.

21 And he said, All these have I kept from my youth up.

22 Now when Jesus heard these things, he said unto him, Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, follow me.

23 And when he heard this, he was very sorrowful: for he was very rich.

24 And when Jesus saw that he was very sorrowful, he said, How hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God!

25 For it is easier for a camel to go through a needle's eye, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.

26 And they that heard it said, Who then can be saved?

27 And he said, The things which are impossible with men are possible with God.

This is a very familiar passage of scripture. Many have used it to speak of folks rejecting Jesus in favor of the wealth and things of this world. These people have covered this well. But, I believe there may be a few more lessons to be learned from scripture about this young man. 

Verse 18) It is customary in religious, business, and political circles to address the ego of the person you are speaking to- especially if the person is perceived to be of a superior position than you. When the young man begins his question to Jesus, he starts with "Good Master." He was recognizing the innate goodness of Jesus, as well as Jesus' good works (healing the sick, etc). 

He was also recognizing him as a Master. He recognized Jesus' amazing teaching to all who would listen. Jesus was the new hot thing in the world. This naturally drew some of the who's who in the community. More than likely, he contacted his associates in various local governments to gain their insights into Jesus. Doubtless, this man had sent his people out to see what all the fuss was about. After all, the rich don't just hang out with the "unwashed masses" without having a good reason to do so. The reports he'd received back amazed him. Jesus healed the sick, raised the dead, bucked up against the Jewish authority of the day. This was truly a man worth checking out!

So, the rich young man decided that Jesus was worthy of his actually going out to meet him. He orders his entourage to make the necessary arrangements. There was his security to consider, his mode of travel, his clothing, the room or house he was to stay in, his food and drink for the going travel, his lodging, and his return trip. Everything had to be set up just so. He also must've had a man (or men) following Jesus so that he knew when and where to go in the first place. He makes his initial trip and settles down for the night. 

The next day, he learns from his servants where Jesus was preaching and (after a healthy breakfast, no doubt) heads out to meet this famous (or infamous in some circles) teacher named Jesus. 

Imagine the agitation of this young man when he sees the masses huddled around Jesus- hanging on his every word and action. He actually has to wait on Jesus to speak to this rabble! Finally, he begins to make his way through the crowds toward the teacher. Most of the crowd recognizes wealth and nobility and moves out of his way (some willingly, others out of obligation). 

Jesus wasn't dressed in fancy robes and fine garments. His hair was windblown. His robes had dirt on them. But his eyes burned with the Holy Fire of God. But, to this ruler, all these facts added up to someone worthy of use, but certainly not an equal. When he finally meets Jesus, he doesn't even give him his name. 

Falling back on his ways of speaking to someone, he puts on a smile and says, "Good Master."

Verse 19) Imagine the ruler's surprise when Jesus did not respond with the same customary kindness. Instead, Jesus cuts to the chase, so to speak.

"Why callest thou me good?"

Why are you even speaking to me, Ruler? You don't even consider me an equal. You look down on me and the multitudes I speak to. You could feed this whole mass of humanity here and then some with your wealth. Yet, you see in me a way to use me for your own purposes to gain something from me and the crowds to which I minister. Why are you here? You can almost hear the hostility in Jesus's question. 

But, then he lowers the boom that most people miss:

"None is good, save one, that is, God."

Unlike many false interpretations, Jesus was not playing himself down with this statement. He was not pointing out that he was a lesser part of a fictitious trinity. Rather, he was telling this young man and everyone that heard, "I am good because I am God almighty come in flesh (Emmanuel- God with us!)! Do you have enough spiritual understanding to know who it truly is that you are talking down to? 

Verse 20) The ruler had asked Jesus what he must do to inherit eternal life, so Jesus, rather flippantly, lists of 5 of the 10 commandments:

"Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Honour thy father and thy mother."

Verse 21) The ruler seems ecstatic! Really? That's all? I've done these all my life! He, like many others, did not notice that 5 more commandments had been left off the list.

What commandments did Jesus leave off?

"Thou shalt have no other gods before me." 

By definition, a rich businessman faces a choice on a daily basis. "Do I follow God's laws and make less money, or do I follow man's laws and make more money. Do I follow a righteous God and his commands? Or do I follow whatever god that fits the particular business deal I'm making? 

Most follow whatever god fits the moment for their own self-gain and standing in the community.

"Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image..."

This is not talking about an artistic endeavor (though many have used art as an excuse to be gory or pornographic or some other perversion they wish to glorify). Rather, this is referring to the making of an idol that is to be worshipped and adored by the maker and many other people. 

There are still many idols in the world. India, Africa, and South America are full of idols carved from trees or rocks that people bow down before and worship. Japan, though a very westernized culture, still has many that have things set up in and around their homes in order to worship their own dead ancestors. Physical idols can literally be found around the world.

Yet, in Western society, we have other idols: Money, Movie Stars, TV Stars, Cars, Homes, Yachts, Politicians, Political Parties, Churches, Preachers, Singers, etc. The list goes on and on. 

How many business deals and political deals are made that are contrary to God's laws, but are made in the name of Money and religious freedom? How many backroom deals are made in order to work around God's laws and make money from ungodly things (abortion comes to mind as just one example of millions)? 

"Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain."

Contrary to popular belief, this is not simply saying don't use the name of Jesus as a cuss word- though that is certainly a part of it. To take God's name means to become a part of his bride (the church) through the new birth (Acts 2:38).

To take his name in vain means to walk away altogether, or to fall away from a right relationship with him. We, as his bride, are to live, act, dress, think, etc in ways that shun the sin we used to be in and glorify our husband, Jesus, who died for us! 

Most rich folks have never known God in a salvational way. Most of they're choices are made in order to cater to their own flesh and bank accounts!

"Remember the sabbath day to keep it holy." 

The sabbath is the seventh day of the week (Saturday). In the Law of God, no work or business was to be conducted on this day. Jesus fulfilled the rest of the sabbath through his death, burial, and resurrection- and sending us his spirit as part of the new birth (Baptism of the Holy Ghost). I have another blog posting on this blog about enjoying the "rest of the sabbath" that explains this in detail:  https://theauthorspage.blogspot.com/2012/03/shalom-shabbath-enjoy-peace-of.html

Yet, if a person is not born again, he cannot fulfill this commandment. Most rich business owners have never been born again and cannot fulfill this commandment in either their own lives or in their company. 

However, there was a time when businesses were closed on Sunday in honor of Jesus's resurrection and to allow employees time to worship Jesus and spend time with their families. Most businesses are now open 7 days a week and as close to 24 hours a day as they possibly can in order to chase their god- money. 

But in the rich young ruler's day, businesses were to be closed on Saturday (the sabbath). Did Jesus leave this commandment out as well because he wasn't following it, either? 

"Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's...(anything)" 

It's okay to have things. It's good to have a godly wife. It's good to have a home. And many other things. 

Yet, one of the natures of business is to grow and acquire more things. More facilities. More products. A larger market share. And, ultimately, a larger profit.

How many business deals have been done in society (and by the rich young ruler) that were done in the name of growing the business- that actually hurt many people. There is no being content with what we have. We've got to have more. 

How many business ventures have been made by marrying the owner in order to gain control of the company? How many wives have been dumped in favor of a new wife in order to solidify the growth of the business? How many political deals have been made the same way? 

Verse 22: Jesus hears his answer and gives him a way to make everything right in his life. He basically gave him the same command he had given the 12 Disciples, "Follow me!" But, he added a stipulation:

"Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, follow me."

Imagine someone telling Donald Trump or Bill Gates, "You've spent your whole life amassing this huge fortune. You've made business deals by many means, some good and some evil. You've buried most of your competition and are on top of the world! But, if you truly want to make heaven and be right with God, Go and sell it all, give it all away so you will be dirt poor, and come follow me." 

That's basically what he told the rich ruler. Nevermind your business acumen. Forget all the backroom wheeling and dealing. Give it all away and I will give you the eternal life you seek. You've got to totally submit to me. 

Verse 23: The rich young ruler was offered a chance to be an Apostle! He could've been in the upper room on the day of Pentecost! He could've helped to baptize the 3000 souls that were added to the church that day! He could've preached to thousands, cast out devils, healed the sick, raised the dead, helped thousands to become born again and live for Jesus!

Instead, with his mind blown and his heart broken, the fake smile gone from his face, he walks away from God almighty. All because he'd rather have his current life than the eternal life that Jesus was offering. 

Did you ever wonder what happened to him? Did he even keep up with Jesus after this incident? Did Jesus' words haunt him for the rest of his days? 

I believe the Lord showed me the answer today. As my wife and I were listening to Mark 14 on a Bible app, I heard words I don't remember ever hearing before:

Mark 14:43-52 King James Version (KJV)

43 And immediately, while he yet spake, cometh Judas, one of the twelve, and with him a great multitude with swords and staves, from the chief priests and the scribes and the elders.

44 And he that betrayed him had given them a token, saying, Whomsoever I shall kiss, that same is he; take him, and lead him away safely.

45 And as soon as he was come, he goeth straightway to him, and saith, Master, master; and kissed him.

46 And they laid their hands on him, and took him.

47 And one of them that stood by drew a sword, and smote a servant of the high priest, and cut off his ear.

48 And Jesus answered and said unto them, Are ye come out, as against a thief, with swords and with staves to take me?

49 I was daily with you in the temple teaching, and ye took me not: but the scriptures must be fulfilled.

50 And they all forsook him, and fled.

51 And there followed him a certain young man, having a linen cloth cast about his naked body; and the young men laid hold on him:

52 And he left the linen cloth, and fled from them naked.

Yes, I know. This is Jesus in the Garden when Judas betrays him and the disciples flee the soldiers. We all know this story. But, notice verses 51 and 52. 

An unnamed man shows up after the arrest but before the trial. After the disciples flee, but before Peter's denial. Who was he? I believe this was the rich young ruler. 

How do I know? 

The first clue was in the phrase, "having a linen cloth..". The term linen cloth here, in the Greek, means "

1. linen cloth, esp. that which was fine and costly, in which the bodies of the dead were wrapped
2. thing made of fine cloth
1. of a light and loose garment worn at night over a naked body."

  

The second clue came from the same phrase: "having a linen cloth cast about his naked body."

Whoever this was, knew where this was going down. A nobody would've had no knowledge of what was happening. 

So, here's the scenario I believe happened. 

The rich young ruler rejected Jesus's offer, but he could never get Jesus's words and actions out of his mind. He probably kept men near Jesus and received regular reports. He periodically heard from his sources in government and the temple about Jesus' most recent sayings and activities. He heard of the plot to kill him. He may have even tried to work behind the scenes to try and reduce what they wanted to do to Jesus. 

But, this was a secret action by the Sanhedrin and the Governor. By the time the ruler was told what was going down by his informant, there was no time for talking to the governor or the Sanhedrin. His only hope was to get out of his bed and throw on his night garment of fine linen and run to the scene, hoping he could get there in time to use his influence to possibly stop the arrest. Having kept up with him, he knew Jesus often prayed in the garden of Gethsemene. His heart racing, he sprinted to the scene. 

To his horror, when he arrived, he was too late. The disciples were dispersed and Jesus was arrested. 

"and the young men laid hold on him:"

He wasn't even allowed to speak to Jesus. He was grabbed by some young men. It wasn't the disciples. They were Gone. It could only be part of the guards who grabbed him. 

"52 And he left the linen cloth and fled from them naked."

I can see a brief struggle. I can see the other guards pulling Jesus along. I can feel the young ruler's heart crashing as he realized not only could he do nothing, not only was his wealth and power worthless to help, but he might be in trouble just for showing up! He might have crossed a line! 

The guards have a firm grip on his nightclothes, so he wriggles out and runs away. Naked and afraid. 

What happened after that? Was he arrested? Did he lose everything he had clung too for so long as important? Or, was he among the 3000 newborn souls on the day of Pentecost?

 We don't know. But, he had a choice just like we do. Do we abandon everything to serve the God of the universe who created us, became human for us, died for us, defeated death, hell, and the grave for us, and sent back his spirit for us?

Or, do we hold onto our "stuff" and refuse to totally submit to Jesus? 

It's our choice. What do we do? 

Acts 2:37-38 King James Version (KJV)

37 Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do?

38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

Do we have rights?

Judges 17:6

In those days there was no king in Israel, but every man did that which was right in his own eyes.

Matthew 24:14

And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in allthe world for a witness unto all nations; and then shallthe end come.

I enjoy politics, I guess. As a political conservative, I focus mainly on what the Constitution does and doesn't say. I love the Constitution, for it is a document that allows freedom and protects our citizens from the evils of big government.

On the other side of the political aisle are the progressives/liberals. These have spent the last 100 plus years chipping away at the Constitution in order to give the federal government more and more control of our individual lives. This is a very bad thing and I will fight it to my dying breath.

However, in the church world, we have the opposite problem. 

We spend a great deal of time "spreading the gospel" and trying to get people "saved." 

That's all well and good, except our focus is wrong. 

We teach lessons, sing songs, write books, etc the goal of which are to show people what God will do for them. I guess the theory is that, in order to reach the "me generation," we have to "get them saved" by explaining the benefits of becoming a Christian. After all, everybody needs Jesus as their savior, right?

That's true.

But, we do them a disservice because we are only showing them half (if that) of the picture.

Jesus didn't come just to seek and save that which was lost. He came to impose his kingdom and displace the devil's kingdom. 

Every step he took towards Calvary and beyond was in direct and open warfare with the devil's kingdom.  

For example, Jesus didn't heal everybody he met that were sick and injured. He could have. Why didn't he? 

Acts 10:38

how God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Ghost and with power: who went about doing good, and healing all that were oppressed of the devil; for God was with him.

If he didn't heal someone, they were sick of natural, not supernatural, causes. 

Put simply, the kingdom of God had come to war with the kingdom of Satan. And Jesus won! 

But, there are some things that we must understand.

Jesus MUST be savior AND Lord (supreme controller) or he cannot be savior at all.

Human nature is that if we do not have an authority above us that we must follow and obey, we will do whatever we think is right.

The gospel is the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). We must obey that gospel to enter into his kingdom and become a citizen (John 3:1-8, Acts 2:38, 1 Peter 4:27, 2 Thes. 1:8). 

But, when we enter the kingdom, we have been bought with a price and are no longer our own (1 Corinthians 6:20; 7:23). We can no longer do anything we want. There's a higher authority that we must (and will) answer to.

The kingdom of God has a king. His name is Jesus. As king, he has the right to allow us to do something. He also has the right to tell us no. 

As citizens of his kingdom, we have the right to ask, and we have the responsibility to obey the ruling that the king gives on any given matter.

The reason the church cannot allow a homosexual teacher/preacher/singer in it's walls is not that God (and we) don't love them. It's because the king's decree (the Bible) forbids it.

The reason we must stand against all sin is because our king has decreed that sin will keep men out of his kingdom and condemn them to eternal punishment in hell. 

Politics involves compromise. In the kingdom of God there is no compromise. 

When you become a citizen of the kingdom of God, you willingly submit yourself to his rule over your life- in all areas. 

There is no middle ground. It's the kings way, or the devils way.

Do we have rights? Yes. The right to obey God in all things. Period. 

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No middleman needed.

Exodus 20: ¹⁸ And all the people saw the thunderings, and the lightnings, and the noise of the trumpet, and the mountain smoking: and when the people saw it, they removed, and stood afar off.

¹⁹ And they said unto Moses, Speak thou with us, and we will hear: but let not God speak with us, lest we die.

²⁰ And Moses said unto the people, Fear not: for God is come to prove you, and that his fear may be before your faces, that ye sin not.

²¹ And the people stood afar off, and Moses drew near unto the thick darkness where God was.

There are many religions on earth. All are man's attempt at getting God's approval. We try to come up with so many ways to reach God. We try to bargain with God. 

"If I do this, can I come be with you some day?" 

"I know what I'm doing is wrong, but I'm doing these things right. Does that count?"

Men also seem to love religions where they have a middle man between God and them. In our text today, Moses tells Israel to come with him to the mountain and let God change them into what he wants them to be.

I have a coworker that seems to come to me about all job related questions and problems. Yes, I'm a manager and he is not. But, I'm not his Supervisor. Yet, he insists upon using me as a middle man, rather than talk to the Supervisor (both of our's boss) directly for himself. One of the greatest frustrations our Supervisor has is that my coworker won't go to him.

I wonder if God- the ultimate Supervisor and judge of all- has the same frustration with mankind. Rather than pray to him and let him change us, we seek our answers from those that we look at as spiritual supervisors. They can be preachers, teachers, priests, a spiritual family member or coworker. Yet, all the while we use these folks as go-betweens, God is trying to reach out to us and beg us to come to him HIS way.

You see, God only allows us to come to him HIS way. We must conform ourselves to his word and ways. He will NOT just wink and allow us in. 

And just as I cannot gain approval for my co-worker, our go-betweens cannot gain approval for us with God. Using a go-between is a form of idolatry. And scripture says that no idolater will make heaven. 

God himself, robed himself in flesh to become the lamb of God, dying on a cross and paying for our sins with his own blood. He has opened the way for us to have a real relationship with him- a life changing and altering relationship. 

No priest, Rabbi, Moulla, or Preacher can ever take his place and act as a go-between for us. The Lord God almighty loves us and begs us to come to him his way. Any other way will not work. 

Yes, God is mighty and scary. But, just as he invited Israel so long ago, he invites us to him now. The question is, will we do as he asks? Or, will we try to stick with our go-betweens.  

The mother's challenge. (Pray for the mothers)

Genesis 2:¹⁸ And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.


Ephesians 5: ²² Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

²³ For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

²⁴ Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

²⁶ That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

²⁷ That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

²⁸ So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

²⁹ For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

³⁰ For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

³¹ For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

³² This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

³³ Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Deuteronomy 6: ⁴ Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord:

⁵ And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.

⁶ And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:

⁷ And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

Titus 2: But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:

² That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.

³ The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

⁴ That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

⁵ To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

I appreciate my wife. Truly, I do! But, I'm very glad that I'm a man. I don't believe that I could do her job. The worst thing that our femenistic society has ever done, is to convince a generation of people that being a wife and mother is a waste of material. Our children and our homes are suffering for this- desperately. 


Understand this also, God in his infinite wisdom created the family BEFORE he created the church. The family relationships are to be a model of the relationship between Christ and his bride. Our homes are MORE important than our callings of ministry. In fact, if we don't perform our duties at home correctly, the word says we are not fir to lead in his church.


So many preachers kids go slap wild because they were neglected in their homes! The parents put most of their emphasis on their ministry, rather than on their family. This is wrong and needs to be corrected- now! 

Lets take a close look at what scripture says about her job. Let's really look at how tough her job is. 

First of all, she is to be a "help meet" to her husband. Many folks have taken these two words and made them mean something they do not. This does not mean that husband and wife, male and female, have equal authority in the home. In fact, the term "help meet", in scripture, actually means, "help help" in the Hebrew. 

The wife is there to help the husband, but as we will soon see, this does not make them equal in authority. It is NOT a 50-50 proposition, as some teach it. And we husbands DO need, probably, twice as much help as the wife does. 

However, the husband is the head (authority) of the wife in the same way that Christ is the head (authority) of the church. It is HIS job to lead the family in the direction that Jesus wants the home to go. It is the wife's job to submit to his leading- even when she disagrees or doesn't like it- just as we must submit to Jesus in the same way. 

Disclaimer: Paul told the church to "follow (him) AS (HE) follows Christ". It's the same in the home. If the husband is trying to lead the wife and children down ungodly path's, she can disobey him and not submit. 

We husbands are to love our lives as Jesus loves the church- AND GAVE HIMSELF FOR US! We are to pray, work for, follow Jesus, and lead our family- even if it kills us to do so. If we will devote our lives to our families, then them following us won't be an issue. They'll be happy to follow us. Just as we are happy to follow Jesus- look at all he's done for us. 

We are to nourish and cherish our wives and children. Our wives are to love and obey us- and nourish and cherish our children. The children are to be taught to submit to the parents and will learn to love and cherish their own families one day by what they see modeled in the homes that they are raised in. 

If the wife is submitted to the husband, then the children see a picture of how the church is supposed to submit to Jesus. If the wife is not submitted to her husband, but rules him or tries to be equal to him, then the children are raised to think that Jesus is to either give them equal say so or even is to submit to them- and they get mad when he doesn't! 

Deuteronomy 6 tells us how we are to raise our kids. But, guess who does most of the teaching? MOM! Read Titus 2. The husband does lead, teach, and enforce. But, mom does most of the teaching to the children since they spend the most time with them. 

If we line our homes up the way God tells us to, then our children will be raised to fear the Lord and come to know him. If we do not, then our children will not only have a hard time in their future marriages and with their future children, but they will have a hard time in their walk with God. Mom's have the tougher job, by far. 

I spent several years in restaurant management. People think that you're the boss and have it made. You're not. The owner is the boss. The supervisor he hires is your direct boss. Yes, you manage the restaurant and the crew, but you are confined in what you can and cannot do by the policies that the owner and supervisor lays down. 

It's not a problem, really, if the owner, supervisor, and manager are on the same page. But, if the supervisor begins to go against the owners policies, problems arise. It is then the managers job to stick to the owners policies, irregardless of what the supervisor says. 

If the manager steps out of line and the supervisor has not, it is the supervisor's job to discipline the manager and bring them into compliance with the owners policies. 

If the crew steps out of line, it is the managers job to discipline them and bring them in line with the owners policies.  

If the supervisor convinces the manager to go against the owners policies, they cause BIG problems. If they don't change, the owner will fire them.

The husband, in a home, is the supervisor. Jesus is the owner. The wife/mother is the manager. She is confined in her job by what her husband allows her to do and not do. 

If the husband tries to do things a different way than Jesus has said, then problems arise. The wife is to hold her ground- standing in prayer on scripture- until Jesus (the owner) disciplines him and brings him back in line. 

If the husband is following Jesus and the wife is not, then it is his job to pray for her and lovingly correct her. No, husbands, you cannot whip our wives. God does a much better job of that than we do.  

If husband and wife are following Jesus, and the children are out of whack, it is the parents job to pray for, correct, and whip them when they need it to bring them in line with God's rules. 

If husband and wife are NOT following Jesus, expect a bad whipping, possibly even being fired (we can lose our salvation). The kids will go slap wild in this case! 

This is why Titus 2:5 says that if the husband and wife don't do their jobs they risk "blaspheming (1) to speak reproachfully, rail at, revile, calumniate, blaspheme

2) to be evil spoken of, reviled, railed at the word of God!" 

Titus 2: But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:

² That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.

³ The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

⁴ That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

⁵ To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Mothers do the majority of this teaching, as they spend the most time with the children.

Men are the head of the home, but mom's are the heart. As the heart goes, so goes the body (home). If the mom submits to dad, and dad leads, loves, and corrects, then the children turn out right. 

But, if our homes are not in God's order, then the kids don't turn out right and we risk blaspheming the word of God. 

Lord, help us to fix our homes. Help the husbands to lead, and help the wives to obey and lead the kids. No job on earth is anywhere close to as important as Mom's job. Help us to help them. In Jesus name!